Developing Self Confidence
Confidence
is a feeling - an inner fire and an outer radiance,
a basic satisfaction with what one is plus a reaching out to become
more. Confidence is not something a few people are born with and others
are not, for it is an acquired characteristic.
Confidence
is the personal possession of no one; the person who
has it learns it - and goes on learning. The most gifted individual
on earth has to construct confidence in his gifts from the basis of
faith and experience, like anybody else. The tools will differ from
one person to the next, but the essential task is the same. Confidence
and pose are available to us all according to our abilities and needs
- not somebody else's - provided we utilize our gifts and expand them.
One
of the most rewarding aspects of confidence is that it sits gracefully
on every age and level of life - on children, men, women,
the famous, the obscure, rich, poor, artist, executive, teen-ager,
the very old. And you can take it with you into old age. There is
nothing more inspiring than an old person who maintains his good will,
humor, and faith in himself, in others, in the future. Conversely,
the root cause of old people's despair is a feeling of not being wanted,
of nothing to contribute, no more to conquer and become.
Most people have more to work with than they realize. One noted physicist
calls this unused excellencies and finding and releasing this potential
in ourselves is one of the major challenges of modern life. The great
danger is not that we shall overreach our capacities but that we shall
undervalue and under-employ them, thus blighting our great possibilities.
The goal of life is not a problem-less existence, which would be
unbearably dull, but a way to handle problems creatively. That word
"problem" may sound a little prickly, but it only means
a question put forth for solution, and actually life consists of a
series of problems-and-solutions, each different from the last.
Confidence
is delight - delight in living, in being who you are,
in what you do, in growing, in the endless and sometimes exasperating
adventure of what it means to be human. The teacher who delights in
teaching has no time for bogging down in a swamp of doubt that he
or she is doing it "right," and they are well aware that
they can become a better teacher tomorrow, but only by doing their
best today and enjoying today. So, too, the mother who delights in
being a mother does not worry overmuch about whether she fits the
rules. She is not the mother, after all, of something material but
of a living child.
Rules can often be a guide to successful living, but they are not
a substitute for living. Rules never quite keep up with reality, because
rules come from experience, not the other way around. Life happens,
and it is infinitely inventive. It will always outrun and outmaneuver
any attempt to bottle it up in a cut-and-dried system, for life is
perpetual becoming. When life turns your wisest plans or best rules
upside down, throw out the plans and bend with the circumstance. You
will find powers you did not suspect, and possibilities undreamed
of.
Confidence
is not always winning, not always victory. Indeed, it
is that very quality in humanity which refuses to stay defeated. A
kind of stubborn cheerfulness. Remember there are two things you can
do with mistakes: you can run away and you can grow.
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